The Power of Complaining - Living By Choice vs. Living by Chance (part 4) - Neuro Tip

Complaining is one of the most powerful things we can choose to do or not do. People who live by chance often automate complaining and do not realize how often they are doing it.

Complaining forms neurological brain pathways in your brain.

Complaining creates and reinforces negative and restrictive beliefs in your subconscious.

Complaining slows you down from reaching your goals and sometimes it even stops you from reaching your goals altogether because complaining can reinforce how "hard" and "impossible" your goals are (or feel like they are).

Complaining is a huge way our brain uses to slow us down and keep us stuck right where we are. Our brain's goal is to keep us alive and surviving NOT THRIVING. Our brain uses any way possible to keep us from change because change is seen as dangerous.

Complaining is powerful. And that powerful is in the most negative way possible.

I love how Neuro Science aligns exactly with the Bible. It's so clear God created how our brains work and left us a guide in the Bible that actually helps us renew and rewire our brains to walk as a new person. In many places we are told to not complain. "Do everything without complaining" (Phil 2:14), "Don’t grumble about each other" (James 5:9), "Be thankful in all circumstances," (1 Thes 5:18). We also see many examples of how complaining led to negative outcomes.

If you want to go fast towards your goals, one of the most powerful shifts you can make is leaving complaining behind. Tomorrow we will talk about another form of complaining that is not often thought of as complaining, but is a powerful way our brains keep us stuck!

A person who lives by choice chooses to respond to things that others complain about by 1) acknowledging the frustration or thing that isn't working and making shifts so in the future it will happen less, or 2) shift their thinking to find something to be thankful for 3) shift their thinking to other things.

Note: It is important to differentiate between complaining and processing especially when working with your children and teens. Our kids need to feel heard. And our kids need help making sense of all the thoughts and emotions going through their head. To dismiss something they bring up as just be positive and don't complain can cause confusion and encourage them to seek other sources to process with. Complaining is different than processing and learning how to handle frustration and unjust situations.